
I used to think
We overthink
Because we are indecisive,
But now I know:
We overthink
Because we feel unsafe,
We are afraid of judgment
We are scared of repeating past failures
We are overwhelmed with unrealistic expectations
We are locked in self-doubt
We are paranoid about making a mistake
That’s why in the history of overthinking,
No one has ever been able to stop just by forcing themselves to let go and fall back asleep at 3 am.
Overthinking is a symptom.
The actual cause lies in our perception of the world, and our perception of ourselves.
When we correct the error in perception, we bring our nervous system to safety and overthinking subsides with zero pressure.
1-Download your thoughts.
Write all of them on a piece of paper.
Write your fears, your doubts, your scary stories about past failures, and your worst-case scenarios about future possibilities.
2-Pick one thought.
(Don’t overthink it - any thought is a good place to start)
Observe your thought.
3-Check in to see how this thought makes you feel in your body. Describe that feeling. Rate its intensity from zero to ten.
4- Question the thought
Ask yourself:
Is it true?
Is it helpful?
Is it kind?
Is it necessary?
How can the opposite thought be true?
Who will I be without this thought?
What is the worst thing that can happen?
5- Check in with yourself:
How did your feeling change?
What is its intensity now?
How do you feel now?
Then watch what happens to the over-thinker in your brain.
If you tried this, leave a comment and let me know if this approach shifted anything for you.
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